Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Making it Official

I don't know if I've mentioned this before, but Josh and I are not particularly religious. I was raised Catholic but have completely cut ties with the Church for multiple reasons (reasons that I'd be happy to get into if you're really interested and contact me privately). Josh wasn't really raised with any religion. It's just not something that's important to us.*

When it came to finding an officiant, we had a few choices. My dad is a lawyer so we could have found a judge to marry us. A close family friend is licensed to marry couples in the state of Ohio, so we could have asked her. Or we could find some one the "new age" way: on the Internet. Guess which one we chose.

Internet, baby!

We've received more than a few raised eyebrows from people upon hearing this decision, but hear me out. I don't like asking my dad for favors and having a judge marry us just wasn't how I pictured my wedding. While we would have loved for our family friend to marry us, I wanted her to be a guest first and foremost. So we were left with looking online. Luckily, it worked out really well for us.

Our officiant is Peter Boruchowitz, a licensed minister from Our Wedding Officiant. We met him last summer and instantly knew he would be a great fit. His background is incredibly interesting. He was a theater major and a professional extra in New York City for many years. He also performed in many off-Broadway productions and a number of movies. Score! He's comfortable in front of large groups AND kinda famous! (Anyone who knows me knows how much I love celebrities. One day I'll be famous. One day.)

Together we've worked to create a personal and emotional ceremony that fits us incredibly well. I sent it to Josh for final review a few days ago and he told me he cried. All together now "Aaaawwwww." I know we're both going to be serious messes come vow time.

Doing something like this is not meant for everyone, but it's perfect for us. As I alluded to before, we've had quite a few raised eyebrows regarding our decision. Here's the thing: you don't have to like it, I just ask that you respect it. And trust me, we've had some seriously DISrespectful reactions. Twice I've been asked (by acquaintances, not people who know me well) if I believe in God. Um, in what circumstance is that an appropriate question, especially in mixed company? The answer is never.

Fortunately, I haven't let comments like that get me down and I'm fully confident in our decision. Our wedding ceremony is going to be meaningful and something I know I'll cherish for the rest of my life.

Who is officiating your wedding ceremony? Anyone else find a guy (or gal) online? (Please tell me I'm not alone here.)

*That is not to say religion isn't important. I fully support your right to freedom of religion as long as you support my right to freedom of no religion :)


  1. We are not religious either and didn't like the idea of hiring someone we didn't know to oversee the ceremony. So... we got my baby brother ordained online. =) My mother was a little nervous that it wouldn't be legit, but now I think she's warmed up to the idea =)

  2. I think your wedding will be gorgeous. Simply because it is you. Glad you can brush off all the judgmental questions/comments!

  3. Good for you...you are who you are and I am so happy that you are standng up to for you and going with what YOU want! CONGRATS