Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Idea stealer!

That's me, I'm totally a blog post idea stealer. Over on Weddingbee they've started a "Relationship Series." The first post prompts readers to respond to the following:

When I was young I thought I'd be married at age ____. I actually got married at age ____. This worked out better/worse for me because ____.

Here is my response.

When I was young I never even saw myself getting married, and if I did think about it, I didn't think it would happen until I was well into my late twenties or early thirties. My mom raised me as a single mother who never married my dad (or anyone else for that matter.) My dad didn't have the best relationship with his wife (my now ex-stepmom). My grandma is a widow. I never really had any solid examples of marriage growing up. I figured I would go to college, get a job, date here and there, and someday have a kid...somehow. It's funny that I always saw myself being a mom, but never really saw myself being a wife.

I'll actually get married at age 24. It's kind of crazy when I think about it. I really do think that 24 is very young to get married. So why am I doing it now instead of later? Simply put, I'm ready. I've always been a little mentally "older" than a lot of my peers. It probably stems from growing up surrounded by adults and being treated like an adult starting at a very young age.

Marrying at a young age has it's pros and cons. Miss Star outlines them nicely in her series "Adventures of a Young-ish Bride." For me, however, the best thing about getting married young is that I'll be able to enjoy being married before I have kids. Josh and I (mostly I) don't want to start trying to conceive (or TTC as That Wife puts it) until I'm 29 or 30. Getting married at 24 will allow me to establish a career, travel, move (a post on this coming up), and mentally prepare myself for having children. I know I'm way too selfish right now to even start thinking about taking care of a baby. Essentially, I want to enjoy the hell out of my 20s and plan to do just that with my hubby-to-be!

Also, thanks to my girl over at Life, Love & Mawwaige! for giving me the idea of writing my own blog post about this. Told you I'm a major idea stealer!

2 comments:

  1. I'll be 24 too! We feel the same way about wanting to be able to have some time to ourselves before we start TTC.

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  2. Aw. thanks for the love! =) Idea stealing is totally a-ok!

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