Yep, it's another stolen idea. Weddingbee just comes up with the best darn topics! Here is today's "Relationship Series" question:
Were you physically attracted to your fiance immediately, or did the physical attraction come after you got to know each other more?
Good question, Weddingbee! Here is my answer:
Josh and I met on MySpace, as you all should know by now, so the first time I saw his face it was in the form of a picture. This picture to be exact:
Eee! So cute :) I was immediately attracted to his smile and his facial hair. I didn't know it at the time, but he was wasted on spring break in Panama City when this picture was taken. So, I fell in love with the face of a drunk. Good one, Em. But it all turned out juuust fine.
We didn't meet in person for another couple months which allowed us to develop a friendship first. He had a really great personality and I liked what he had to say. We didn't "online date" at all; that came after we met in person. Unfortunately, the first time I saw him in person I was seriously disappointed. Where did the facial hair go?? Here is the closest picture I could find of a clean-shaven Josh:
It's an entirely different person!! He was still cute, but I just liked him so much more with facial hair. Thankfully, the clean-shaven look was just for a job fair and the scruff was back in a few days.
I think physical attraction is so incredibly important in a relationship. Luckily, everyone has different tastes, so everyone can get in on the lovin' action. My new internet friend Emily (she's cool AND we're name twins) and I had a discussion the other day on vanity. Basically it boiled down to the idea that there is nothing wrong with wanting to look good. And there is especially nothing wrong with wanting to look good for your spouse. I could very easily "let myself go" by gaining a bunch of weight, never wearing make up or doing my hair, and dressing sloppy. But I know I never want to do that because I want to stay attractive for Josh. Knowing that he finds me attractive makes me feel great about myself. It may sound archaic and very "Mad Men", but I just can't see myself ever ceasing to care about how I look. I don't just do it for him, believe me, I do it for myself, too (I've never met a mirror I didn't like.)
We're all going to change in our appearance as we age, but staying attractive to my partner will be something I take very seriously as my body goes through those changes.
Stay tuned for the next installment of "Em can't think of her own ideas so she steals them from Weddingbee."