Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Ideal Age

A few days ago on Weddingbee's Relationship Series they asked the following question:

The ideal age difference between a couple is ___. Why do you feel this way?

I am a firm believer in dating a guy who is older than you. All of the guys I've dated have been older than me, except for my first boyfriend (and kiss). My first boyfriend and I were together for a good part of my freshman year in high school. We had a cute thing going on, but I knew that dating guys my age just wasn't for me. The next year I moved on to a boy one year older than me. We also had a cute thing, but even a one year difference wasn't enough for me. The rest of my previous boyfriends were also at least one year older than me.

Josh and I are four years apart, which works out perfectly. We're close enough in age that we're able to enjoy the same activities, but we're far apart enough to have experienced the same events at different times in our lives. For example: when he started college cell phones were not the norm. They had to actually make plans ahead of time and remember phone numbers. Huh? That's insane for me to think about because when I started college 4 years after he did, you were a nobody if you didn't have a cell phone. Remember a phone number? I don't think so.

I've found that boys my age are just not on the same level as me. Guys tend to "develop" a little slower than girls so dating an older guy makes sense. This may be "ageist" of me, but I highly doubt I would consider dating some one younger than me. Luckily, I have Josh so I never have to worry about that!

How far apart in age are you and your SO?


  1. All of the guys I've ever dated, with the exception of one, has been a year older than me... The guy that was 6 months younger was a psychopath, so I can't really use him as a comparison! lol... But I think there's something to be said for the fact that I've always been attracted to and dated guys who were older. My fiance is 362 days older than I (our birthdays are 3 days apart!). Like you said, guys seem to develop more slowly, which is why I'm always a little surprised when someone my age goes for a younger guy. One of my high school classmates just married a guy FIVE YEARS YOUNGER than she is. I don't really know how that works...

  2. I have to say that I have only been dating guys my age or up to 1 year younger. Maybe it works because I am also not ready for settling down but still want to experience so much on my own. As long as you love each other, it can work.

    On the other hand, thanks for the Accomplice suggestion. My roommates and I are going to do it so I'll let you know how it goes

  3. How fiance and I are also 4 years apart, and I think it is just perfect! We never feel that much of a difference between us. Although, I always find it funny when we are watching a movie (we had Independence Day on the other week) and we realize how different in age we are (I was in elementary school when that movie came out, he was in high school...eeek!!!! Kind of creepy when you think about it that way)!